helpful advice needed here!

I dont want this post to sound sad or anything because its not intended to be, but i just thought i would write my thoughts down to see if maybe anyone could help. I've known about this awesome roleplay site since 2014, when i first made a character and joined a guild having no idea what i was doing. but with following drama that happened within that guild, (which was an amazing guild, sad it was disbanded) I became inactive and i never did jobs because i didnt know how they worked, i only ever did socials. no one ever taught me how and they just confused me for some reason.

But i decided i wanted to rejoin and start over back in may 2016 after a year. i brought a friend with me, and we've been doing lots of plots with our characters here and its been really fun  to watch them start to develop(also figured out how jobs work, yay xD) but we've both had issues along the way with making our characters feel significant...

i think its been harder for me to actually be active since i can be really shy and submissive on here, its kind of strange really since im not normally very shy. Everyone on here just seems to have such powerful characters or just not have time to plot with someone as "low" as i am, like they just dont have the leisure of time to waste on just another low character. ive only been doing one thread for two months, and hardly talked to anyone.  i just really want to get Rei Katsura to her full potential since she's always felt like this weak link with a useless magic that cant get her anywhere. shes one of my favorite characters ive ever made but it just seems like she gets so belittled here just because she isnt a high rank.. Everything on this website seems to depend on ranking more than anything, and if your not high then you dont matter. maybe that isnt the case, but anyone higher than me its really hard to talk to since they suddenly feel like an authority instead of a friend. It just seems like everyone has formed their exclusive cliques and there's just no more room for me anymore I felt very welcomed when i first got here, but i left the original guild i was in since my character didn't fit in anymore. Im still partially to blame for not being let back in, since i unintentionally pushed myself out.

Im scared to talk to anyone, but i have tried to put myself out there and the threads i did back there kind of just felt meaningless, id just like to get to know people and make lots of fun plotlines. just kind of feels like ive been left behind.


It really isnt like me to "vent" especially over the internet, but if i want to solve this problem i cant do anything else. i applaud anyone who actually read all of that. but seriously, if anyone has any advice at all im all ears. i just hope i can overcome this weird shyness i get talking on here as well. maybe some advice on how to stay more active here as well would be very appreciated. thank u very much ^^

Sorry to hear you have had such a bad time since Na was disbanded back then. That event left a sour taste in everyone's mouth but it happened and we moved on from it thankfully. Glad to hear you got better with learning things on site but don't feel like anyone with a higher rank is talking down to you. Sometimes people that feel like they have more power tend to come off as mean just because they might know more or something and will sometimes rub it in but that is not all of them.

I think what you should do is branch out and find new people to RP with to get Rei more known and involved in things which I am completely fine with doing with you if you want. Cirv is a goofy character with a sad past but can be the big bro type also so maybe that could work towards something? Also Cirv is an ex-ST member so that could be a story there.

PM me if you want to do a job or social or anything. I can help you out with learning things a bit more if you need it too.

Well, first of all, though it might not seem so, I know exactly how you feel. As a naturally quiet person irl, it was and still is quite scary for me to talk to higher-ranking people and staff on-site. Perhaps it is because higher powered characters are somewhat considered "higher-ranking" as you mentioned, but usually, I find that after chatting with said person or doing a thread with them, they seem less high up and scary.

For example, I'll just use Mashyuu here as an example x3, he used to be higher-ranked than me, a mod, as well as someone who seemed really friendly with staff and strong characters. I would be super awkward and kinda scared when it came to talking with him, but after we did a job together, I sorta realized "Oh, he isn't all that scary!" So yeah, I guess that boils down to talking with people, and rping with them.

Something else that has probably impacted me the most, however, was getting a team. Having people to rp with, and plot with can really make things a lot more comfortable. I used to kind of just float around and thread with whoever asked me until someone I'd done a few jobs with invited me to join a team he had started. We had a Skype chat where we planned out jobs and threads, and over time, they became some of the best friends I have ever had in my life and are always making my site experience a great one. Just look for some people in your guild, put out a request for a team or something - I'm sure there's always someone willing. Any sort of plot partner makes for a great buddy though, as my IC ship ended up becoming my first friend made on the internet.

This is already absurdly long for me, but as for staying active, having plot partners gives you a feeling of responsibility to post that has kept me on the site for so long. Constantly plotting things out for your characters and giving them lotsa love and attention helps as well.

And, well, that's it, I guess. Hope that helped, and if you ever want to chat or rp, you can find me on Discord or PM me ^^

The Chatbox will set you free.

No jk, really if you hop into the chatbox you'll see everything isn't so scary at all. Most of the crazy bunch in there are generally always trying to have a good time and the others half mostly just lurks around. As to overcome some shyness I agree with Cirven there. Just branch out a bit. Put on a message in the wanted ads section. Stating you are looking for others to RP. Or just send a private message to some random active member. The more you put yourself out there the more you get to rp with others. You'll see.

Also don't trust the big bro thing with Cirven. He will force you to call him onii-chan! Because that's just what he wants!

Ah, I remember the days when I was doing all jobs solo because I was too scared to ask anyone if they would be willing to play with me. It was not a great time, so I can understand how it can feel to be in your situation. I feel like everything needed was already said by others here so I'm just gonna offer Noheme here, along with my alt Charlotte who is only C-rank, just like my other rank Leila (But she is dark, just so you know) if you want to play. Socials, jobs, it's all good. And while this character does have slight aura of superiority about her because of her personality, I'm sure we could make something fun and friendly happen!

And about the whole magic thing, there is no such thing as weak magic. Really, it all depends on how you use it. Sometimes it needs little bit of practice, but you'll figure it out eventually. I mentioned Charlotte, my alt. Her magic right now has very little power and is mostly for plot development and pretty looks, yet I think she can be significant to the story of others and her own. You don't need power in order to be 'strong', trust me on that. Having fun with your plot is way more important than that.

And, well, if you decide not to try anything with me then I at least wish you good luck with others ^^ it's always way more fun when you have friends around and you can play with them.

Oooohhh, someone to torture

JUST KIDDING ^^

As the others said, just branch out and get to know others etc. We can be up to anything really :) Why don't we do a job together some time in fact?? ^^ I got my slots all full, but I will be more than happy to pm you when one of them is open :D ^^